I haven’t been in the mood to write a lot lately. Was just thinking about this blog and my readers as I work through my budget for the year.
The sort of everything is that it took me three months to find a new job. I got lucky — because a lot of interviews were getting to late stage (including projects I put a lot into) and then I didn’t get the job for one reason or another. One I thought I would get was eliminated as the company went in another strategic direction. A contact of mine from the past referred me to an opportunity and the interview process was very smooth as she is super well respected in the org, so I didn’t even have to do a project to get hired!
The role is much more junior than my past roles and on paper it’s a lot less than I was making at my last job (for even more work). I’m enjoying the role, though. It’s hard but I’m learning a lot and I feel appreciated for what I bring to the table. I realize the past years have felt like an abusive relationship with my past employer and I should have left a long time ago. I’m glad I didn’t because the comp was worth staying for — but it was definitely time to leave.
This job is very much a transitional role. I need to run with my new title and pick up as much experience and data for my resume as I can in the next 1-2 years. I’m at $175k salary now with no bonus or anything (plus minimal private co stock that won’t be worth anything.) It’s not horrible but going from $250k+ to $175k is pretty rough on the ego and home budget front. My husband is earning $100k so we can get by on $275k but it’s tight (yeay HCOL.) I need to spend some time reallocating investments as things are way off now. I’m tired and don’t have time to think about it. Plus I need to help my mother with her investments as she sold her house and it’s all in cash now. Fun times.
Great to hear from you! Glad you were able to find something you like, even if it’s a transitional role.
Hi,
For preface;
I have been reading your posts after finding your blog via a DUI post and literally everything you write feels exactly like my own internal dialogue. Regarding your current and past work situations, DUI, thoughts on life, how you talk ETC.
I ask, if it is not too draining on you, what has helped you keep going in life and get through all of your hardships with the mental health states you have?
Any input is more than appreciated.
As background I am 30 yr old male. Just got a DUI and firmly believe I am an, undiagnosed, manic depressant with ADD/ADHD.
Some how I have made it through this much of my life without others noticing or family getting me help as a child but it is evidently clear to me, now as an adult, that I have been this way since young and cannot continue getting by. The two major depression episodes I have had (1 when my father past away a couple years ago and 1 currently with the DUI) are debilitating to the point of not wanting to continue on through the rest of life.
I know that is deep/dark and I realize you are a person posting about your own life through a blog, not a doctor or therapist, so I am not asking for professional advice/help.
None the less you have made it and continue on into your 40s and into the future.
So I ask again for input, not advice, because who better to seek knowledge from than someone who has shared mental health issues and circumstances that they continual have overcome. I feel sometimes others I talk to cannot fully understand due to not experiencing what it is like to have depression and ADD/ADHD . That they do not and cannot fully comprehend what goes on inside my mind.
This sounds like a great job for you! Although the salary is lower, it seems like it is much lower stress and they are appreciating your work, which must be good for your mental health. It may be worth sticking it out for a while as, in reality, you don’t actually need a higher salary. You are coast FI and as long as you are earning enough to cover your expenses, which I’m sure you are and I imagine still able to save a reasonable amount, you will still end up with a nice early retirement.