There will be plenty of TMI posts this year, so if you prefer to avoid reading about infertility and all the fun that goes along with trying to get pregnant when your body doesn’t work properly, quit reading now. If you want to follow along with my journey attempting to get pregnant, then read ahead.
Infertility can be caused by many different issues — endometriosis, ovulation problems, poor egg quality, PCOS, tube blockages (male and female), sperm problems, sperm allergies, and general unexplained infertility. Or, if you’re really lucky, you can have a combination of any of the above.
Right now it is believed that our problem is a combination of PCOS and ovulation problems. If I’m not ovulating on my own, I can take medications which block estrogen receptors at the hypothalamus to release follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) to make my body ovulate. The doctor tracks when you are going to ovulate (if this works) and then instructs you exactly when to have sex. You know, the sexiest kind of sex when you’re looking at a clock and saying “ok go.”
As most women with infertility problems do, I’m tracking my cycles using mobile apps and trying to better understand my body. My last cycles have been between 34 and 45 days, with 34 seemingly my “normal” cycle length when my body decides to work. I used to think I had to be a healthy weight for this to happen but I’m overweight on the brink of obese right now at 29.9 BMI (which is not good and I’m going to fix this year) and I’m having fairly regular cycles. That’s the good news.
The bad news is that it appears I am still not ovulating. One issue that can cause annovulation is stress. That is a huge challenge for me as I am extremely stressed in my work situation, and I know I need to lower my stress levels in order to get pregnant and be able to not miscarry once I do conceive.
My #1 priority for 2017 is to get pregnant this year. It is one of my scariest goals yet because it is one I have very little control over if my body just doesn’t want to make a baby. It also can be quite costly and get in the way of other financial goals. I wish I lived in a state where infertility treatments were covered by insurance, but alas, I do not. I expect to spend $3000 – $100k per child at this point before they’re even “made.” I’m hoping it’s closer to $3000.