life after DUI: attempting to start over without really starting over.

Life happens. Mistakes are made. How the rest of your life turns out depends on how quickly you’re able to bounce back, as well as how you’re able to turn things around and not make the same mistakes again.

It’s been six months since pleading “no contest” to my DUI arrest at .08% BAC, and 10 months since the actual evening of the arrest. I’ve gone through many phases after the arrest, including depression, shame, guilt, anger, and now, coping and trying to move on.

I’ve been without a car for months now — thought I’m eligible to register for a restricted license to get to work, I’ve been avoiding that and driving because I’m scared to let myself get near a car. On Monday, I’ve finally made myself a DMV appointment to purchase a restricted license. This summer, once my classes are over, I should be able to get a full license and attempt to bring my life back to normal, or better yet, move forward to a place I’ve never been — in control, and in charge of my own happiness.

In my DUI class the other day, we had to do an exercise called “the 12 hours before your DUI.” It had a series of multiple choice questions, that because with — “was it on a usual or unusual day?” For me, it was an unusual day. I was having a huge bought of anxiety and hadn’t moved from my bed for the entire day, not even to eat. I don’t even remember why I was so stressed, but I was having a bad enough panic attack that I requested to work from home that day. Then, around 5pm I decided it would be best to force myself to get out of the house and go to a meetup event, where I could try to be social and get myself some food. Unfortunately, instead of food, there was only wine and a lot more anxiety. So I had four or so glasses to drink on a very empty stomach.

The questionnaire went on to ask what time you started drinking, where you were, and what time you were arrested. I started at 7pm, finished at 9:30pm, and was arrested around 12:30pm. Why were you arrested? My option was “other.” Most people in the class had been pulled over for driving poorly. I have the lowest BAC in the class at .08%. Most people had .14% or higher, with a few .20% and higher. Some stories are so crazy (like the guy who got arrested with three kids in the back seat and a .24% and, because he had a good lawyer, got less of a punishment than I did with my .08% and no traffic violation) or the woman who was drinking all day and ended up driving with a .22% to help her friend out who forgot her seizure medication at a party. Most people were celebrating, a few had been drinking all night, went to sleep and woke up the next morning to drive, only to get a DUI because the alcohol hadn’t left their system.

At the end, the questionnaire asked four final questions:

1. Do you feel responsible for the events leading up to your DUI?
2. Do you think it was fair that you were arrested?
3. How likely are you to get a DUI again?
4. How hard will it be for you to get a second DUI?

We’re told that 40% of first DUI offenders will get a second DUI. That seems ridiculously high, but in forcing myself to answer these questions honestly, I understood why.

1. Do you feel responsible for the events leading up to your DUI? Yes, entirely.

2. Do you think it was fair that you were arrested? Somewhat. I think it was unfair I was arrested that night because someone called 911 on me walking to my car — not even because I was driving poorly — and all of the videos they force us to watch show accidents with people who had .15% or higher — but I also am glad they did because it was much better to learn this lesson on a night I was just barely over the legal limit, then another night when I might have been more depressed, more intoxicated, and hurt someone. I still think it is unfair how people who have clearly had a lot more to drink end up with the same punishment or even lesser punishment if they have good lawyers.

3. How likely are you to get a DUI again? Very unlikely. I wanted, so desperately, to put that it definitely wouldn’t happen, but then I wanted to be honest.

4. How hard will it be for you not to get a second DUI?  The only real way for me to guarantee that I will never get a DUI again is to stop drinking. Of course when I’m sober I can say I wouldn’t drive after I drink, but the problem is that when you drink you think irrationally. I’m a lightweight, and after even one drink my logic goes to shit. I am glad that this experience after the DUI is so frustrating — because it’s easier to “forget” paying $10k over the years, but it’s not easy to forget the night in jail, the five days of SWAP program where I was a part time convict and freedoms were taken away from me, and now, this year of my life which has been really difficult due to not having a car, putting a great deal of stress on not only my life, but also my boyfriend’s life, as he has so kindly helped drive me over the year. Somehow I’m managed to maintain my job this last year, but I’ve been severely depressed, and have gained more than 20 pounds, now at my largest weight ever. I feel so out of control, and so I just eat and eat. This is another reason I must get my life back in order.

I won’t get a second DUI, I promise myself, and I promise the world, but I also said I wouldn’t get a first. I think that sort of messes with your mind also… which might lead to the likelihood of people getting a second or third, even. But I refuse to be a statistic.
Beyond the DUI, though, there is a question of whether I should drink in the first place. It’s challenging not to, with my work culture tied to our weekly happy hour. I like drinking too, because I’m so shy and awkward, at the time, it helps me be social, and feel like I belong. It isn’t like I’m going out to get shit faced, but even one drink of red wine makes me more comfortable with others. I wish I could figure out a way to feel like that without the alcohol. It also turns out that since the DUI, I’ve started drinking more than I used to, because of this depression and hatred over losing the last bit of control I felt like I had with life.
In any case, I’m really focused on moving on with my life. There’s a lot going on right now causing me to be depressed beyond this issue, things that the rational, not depressed person would be able to deal with, things that are really making getting through each day difficult. Luckily there is a lot of positive things in my life right now too, so it all balances out. There are days when I feel like giving up. I’ll write more about that in my next post.
I just want all of the DUI penalties to be done with, so I can really move on. I’ve finished seven of my 17 classes (which are taking a long time because they are weekly and I frequently travel for work), and I’ll be paying the fines and increase in insurance for years to come. I finally filled my SR-22 with my insurance, so I can get the restricted license, and will be getting that on Monday. My car apparently isn’t turning on because it hasn’t been driven in months, so I need to see if it can be fixed or if I need a new car. Soon this will be over. And I really, desperately, need to change my life so this — and other things like this — do not happen again. My next post will be on self sabotage and how this effects life and my financial stability.

 

 

  • http://www.google.com Let's be honest

    You say that you can't guarantee that you won't get a DUI again, which indicates to me that you're going to be a repeat offender. Instead you are still hung up on how unfair your arrest was. You say that the videos you were shown don't apply to you because your BAC wasn't that high. Well, guess what, you still got a DUI and it still goes into your record.

    You say, "I’m a lightweight, and after even one drink my logic goes to shit." This is not an acceptable reason for getting a DUI, this is the kind of excuse a child would use to explain why she was caught with her hand in the cookie jar. YOU alone are responsible for knowing your own tolerance. Adults eat before they go out to happy hour, children bow to peer pressure. Adults get a ride home, children act like they should be able to do whatever they want.

    Go back and read your old posts about when you got arrested. Think about the money, the time, and the embarrassment. If you don't feel the shame and anguish you displayed back then about your arrest, then you WILL get arrested again and I hope to GOD that none of my loved ones are on the road when you are driving. You can be a danger to yourself all you want, but try to think about the consequences that you could wreak on someone else's life.

    DON'T just offer us empty promises. You are an adult, take some responsibility for yourself. If not, then you should stay off the roads in California and everywhere else in the country because — you shouldn't be driving! Again I beg you, please get off the road before you hurt someone I love, until you can approach this like an adult would.

    • http://hereverycentcounts.com/ Joy

      The truth is I'm not going to get another DUI. The reason I posted this is because 40% of first offenders get a second. I wanted to point out that I always wondered how this could be the case — but then I've realized, for people who make the mistake in the first place, you already have an issue with judgement, and you've already proven that you've failed to think logically when you were intoxicated. This is not to say I will do this again ever — I won't — but it's also just a reminder to myself that I need to not let my emotions cause me to drink too much when I shouldn't, and to make the mistake again. Just as I need to be honest in how angry at myself I am for driving that night, I'm also realistic in that it's not going to be "easy" to never do this again. It's something that I need to focus on every single time I go to a social event. Still, this isn't an empty promise… it's not going to happen again. But the point is that it's difficult because I clearly have other mental health problems that make it harder to make the right decisions. Yes, I think my arrest was unfair — .08% BAC is a random number chosen as the cut off for illegal intoxication, but there is no proof you are more likely to get in an accident at .08 vs .07 (most accidents occur over .15% (The average BAC among fatally injured drinking drivers is .16)). I also know that I won't get near a car when I have anything to drink (even one drink) and making this rule will help me never get into trouble again. If I'm going to drink, I'm going to make sure that I have a way to get home by public transportation. I overall want to stop feeling like I need to drink in social situations, so I can avoid these problems in the future. I must remind myself that it's not something that is easy to do after I've had a few drinks, so I must plan in advance to make sure this isn't a problem.

      • http://www.facebook.com/LunarBella Luna Bella

        I pleaded no contest yesterday for a dui. in fl you are adjudicated guilty automatically. there is no withheld. I am not learning that it stays on your record for 75 yrs…really?…its one thing to be punished another to have it on your record for life. it affects housing, jobs and your insurance rates bad enough….I can understand it staying on your record for a few yrs andthen being dropped after 10 yrs like they do in some states, even that is s bit extreme. we as humans make mistakes and some people learn I know I have and I’m sure many others.have and won’t do it again…I’m wondering if there is a way to have this law changed not only in fl but in other states as well. if enough people fight for they’re rights I’m sure it can be changed.

    • Lee

      What an arrogance. I hope to whoever whatever your GOD is that your loved ones don't get harsh judgment from you.

      • laguy

        Joy,

        I want to say thank you for this page. Please do not be discouraged or feel judged by what others say. Sometimes events like this can cause a major shift in your life. For the better. I hope this is one like that. We all make mistakes. The best you can do now is to learn from it and move on. Make sure you do not do it again.

        To the other poster that is highly judgmental, imagine yourself in a terrible situation. One that you never thought you would ever find yourself in. It happens. No one is infallible. It is easy to judge others and be self righteous. It is much harder to be understanding.

    • Paul

      I'm pretty sure that all of the knotted up rejects of society like "Let's be honest" [sic] who post judgmental crap like this are the same drivers who believe the road is theirs and theirs alone, and that their time is more valuable than everyone else's. Any objectionable driving behavior that gets them to their destination a few seconds ahead of the next guy is fair game as long as they're not drinking.

      Who knows, maybe he/she/it (let's go with 'it') got a DUI of its own after gargling with mouthwash, or goat's blood, or whatever it likes to slosh around its gaping, unsightly mouth in the morning. It may have taken to heart the GAWD-given opinions of other equally unhinged cave dwellers, none of which were needed or even remotely warranted. Now, it's a crusader. Good for it.

      For whatever reason, these troglodytes believe this sort of attack to be a right and just way to treat others. FYI, it's not. So, "Lets be honest", please crawl back into your pus- and sputum-encrusted spider hole and wait for the reaper. After he arrives, you're not going to where you think you're going.

      Too much? It definitely made me feel better! [now that I think about it, maybe that's why people post this holier-than-thou claptrap in the first place...]

    • http://www.facebook.com/daclaud Daclaud Lee

      I just want to tell you and anyone else who has ever gotten a DUI not to feel guilty or bad about drinking and driving. First of all, YOU are NOT a criminal, you are a VICTIM of the legal system and the fanaticism of those crazy bitches at MADD. Not everyone who drives after drinking (notice how I did NOT say driving drunk, because that is entirely subjective) is a potential criminal. You are NOT a murderer unless you actually killed someone. You have NOT caused an accident unless you actually drove recklessly, causing an accident. You have NOT endangered anyone's life if you have not actually caused caused anyone harm.

      DUI laws are just basically money making schemes and organizations such as MADD, mothers against drunk driving are the REAL CRIMINALS because this non profit organization generates over $144 Million dollars a year by brainwashing people into believing that alcohol is bad and everyone who drives drunk has the potential to cause harm or murder someone; let me tell you what, so is a SOBER person and statistically, there are more accidents caused by sober drivers than drunken drivers.

      The woman who created the organization MADD believed that she was a victim because coincidentally a driver who happened to be drunk accidentally killed her daughter. But what about all the victims of DUIs? People who get DUIs are also victims; financially, emotionally and psychologically. A victim of a DUI will often be depressed and depression can lead to suicide and possibly mental breakdown due to financial loss, a criminal record that will mark him or her for life and a future that is uncertain simply because it is illegal to have a BAC over the limit of 0.08%.

      Sober drivers kill more people than drunken drivers and the majority of people who are charged with a DUI are probably more safe to drive than people might be lead to believe. Go to a big city on the weekends and you will see thousands of people driving after consuming alcohol and make it home safely. Sure, there are isolated incidences, but hudnreds of thousands of people drink and drive EVERY DAY, but home many times do you see a drunken driver kill someone on the news? Once a week? a few times a month? It's not very likely that a so called "impaired" driver causes any harm. The majority of DUI stops are simply preemptive strikes against a potential crime that has NOT YET been committed. The majority of these people are simply trying to make it home without being harassed by police who have nothing to do other than to screw someone over for allegedly driving drunk. Assuming that all people are not safe to drive after a few drinks is like assuming that all Middle Eastern people are terrorist, it's wrong and not logical.

      As libertarian author Radley Balko said that if "we really care about road safety, we should abolish drunk driving laws". http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5LyFKrikZQ&fe

      Basically, my point is, we need more people who are willing to band together take up a stand to abolish drunken driving laws and to take up a stand against organizations such as MADD who only make it worse for people who are charged with a DUI because WE are VICTIMS of a PREEMPTIVE STRIKE against crimes we have NOT committed!

      Speaking of preemptive strikes… This one could lead to something much darker and more severe as DUI stops are psychologically, emotionally and financially damaging. A DUI charge could cause enough psychological trauma, stress and damage to a person's psyche to make him or her suicidal because of the difficulties in getting a job, having a criminal record, loss of income, loss of a job and so forth. All of these things could lead to a DUI victim to suicide or much, much worse, and potentially turn him or her into a mass murderer (a SOBER mass murderer I would like to add) examples being Columbine shootings, the Colorado movie theater shooting, Virginia Tech and so forth. This is just my opinion, an unlikely scenario, but if I can think of it, then who's to say it will not happen? It's stuff like this that the law makers don't take the time to think about. Therefore, we NEED to prevent this from happening and REPEAL DUI/OVI laws!

      LIKE this page if you agree: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Drunken-Driving-Law

      "Police need to concentrate on the reckless driving itself and not necessarily what's causing it." – Radley Balko

      • Injured by your freedom

        Wow, is this the most horrifically selfish thing I’ve ever read. I suppose that if you fire a gun into a crowd but miraculously miss everyone than you are also innocent of wrongdoing, and should be allowed to do it again until you hit someone?
        I’m writing this as I sit in bed while my family goes out for ice cream. Why aren’t I with them? Because a repeat drunk driver ran his car head-on into mine as I was on the way home from work one day, and I CAN’T go to the dairy with my family. No one thought his drunk driving was serious enough to stop, until after he injured me. I guess they thought the way that you did – no harm, no foul, right? Except we know for certain that drunk drivers are exponentially more likely to hurt or kill someone than sober drivers. This – not money – is why we seek to stop drunk driving BEFORE someone gets hurt.
        Driving drunk is inherently reckless. There is no such thing as safely driving while drunk.
        Are you suggesting that the dozen broken bones on the left side of my body, the possibly permanent nerve damage, the multiple surgeries (we’re up to 4 now), the sleepless nights, the pain, and my family’s loss of my companionship are a fair price for what you see as your freedom?
        I imagine it’s people who think like you that lead law enforcement and the justice system to leave guys like the driver who did this to me on the road. So thanks!

        • http://www.hereverycentcounts.com hereverycentcounts

          Wow, I really feel for you and am sorry you were injured by a drunk driver. That is awful and I cannot imagine the pain you are going through now and for the rest of your life. I did not say that I have the “right” to drive drunk at all. The fact of the matter remains that it is unclear at what level of intoxication one becomes unable to drive. The actual legal numbers are designed mostly so that the government can make money off drunk drivers. Wouldn’t it be easier just to say it is illegal for people to drive with any alcohol in their system? Instead they make it .08% which is different for every person. This is so they can easily catch people and charge them a lot of money which makes a lot of money for the state. That is not to say that people should drive after drinking, but I would much prefer they make a law that says 0% BAC for driving instead of creating this level that is unclear so it’s supposedly ok to drive after a drink or two. I would be curious what the BAC of the person who injured you was. In our class we learned about most accidents caused by drunk drivers are of drivers over .15%. Those below that are no more likely to get in an accident than drivers who are under .08%. Again, I am not making excuses or arguing that anyone should drive drunk. Just that the .08% number is arbitrary and designed to create an income stream for the government. If the government really cared about protecting people from drunk drivers it would make the BAC allowed 0%.

        • A reasonable person

          If the person that hit you had just been speeding and hit you head on but hadn’t had any alcohol, would you have been less injured? No. But if someone is pulled over for speeding, they get a ticket or a warning and go on with their lives. If someone is pulled over for DUI they get a whole lot more.

          Why is that do you suppose? Both people are choosing to put other people in “danger” for their own convenience, neither person has hurt anyone or anything when they are pulled over, yet one of them receives a ticket for a small fine and the other is carted off to jail and endures years of punishment. Why is that do you think? Do you think it has anything to do with the fact that everyone speeds even though it is incredibly dangerous and kills more people every year than people who have been drinking by a landslide?

          Hope your wife didn’t speed at all on the way to ice-cream, or look away from the road to deal with your kids, because she is taking everyone else’s lives in her hands by choice when she does that. And as you have said, we can’t have people like that on our roads!

          DUIs are bad, so is speeding, so is running a red light, so is running a stop sign, so is an illegal u-turn etc. All of those things can and do cause fatal accidents every single day. All of them are choices made by the drivers, yet only one of them carries any real penalty.

    • Dre

      To "Let's be honest" the judgmental commenter: The only thing someone can guarantee is death. Nothing else in this world is guaranteed.

  • theTruth

    you will get another dui because the cops run everyones tags on the road when you come up as previous dui that gives them the impression you are still a no good drunk…. they will always fuck with you for the rest of your life…. most cops work a certain area everyday of their life… they know what cars come through a t what time…. if they know you have a previous offense…. they basically look at you as a numbers game… it is only a matter of time before they get you… that is what is fucked up about this country… my friend if i were you i would leave the fucking country immediately and start a new life… especially if you only have one offense misdemeanor. trust someone with experience.. you are treated like a murderer if you have a first dui for the rest of your life… you better know someone in a profession that you like cause if you try to get a professional job… it is going to be an uphill battle for at least the next ten years of your life… i know you said you are young but take it from me you will get tired of working scum bag jobs at one point and the politics of dui are so fuked up that is why you need to find something quick.

    • http://hereverycentcounts.com/ Joy

      except if I drink I'm not driving anywhere so I won't get a second one.

      • Ray

        If only it were that easy. I got my license back after my first DUI many years ago and, like you, decided that not driving was the smart choice. Just a few months later, I was out all day on New Years, going from parade to parties all day and night. I thought that not driving and staying at the friend who was driving’s house was enough. Well, we got back to his house that night and I walked around the corner to get my stuff out of my truck and head back. As I was grabbing my bag, a cop pulled up (as if he had been staking out the vehicle) and asked me where I was coming from and where I was going. Long story short… he lied, said he pulled me over for an expired inspection sticker that still had 10 more good valid months on it, arrested me for DUI and stole $100 from my wallet. I thought I had a slam dunk defense and payed way more than I would ever consider for a lawyer to guarantee it. Well, the charges stuck, my overpaid lawyer sent some kid I never met to plead me guilty and between him and the threats I received at the police station, I never filed charges against the cop. I wouldn’t be surprised if the percentages have increased to over 40 getting reconvicted as DUIs have become such great money makers for local and state gov and defending them has become almost impossible. Here in NJ, even if you have all the evidence against you thrown out, the cops word saying you were impaired coupled with anything over a .00 BAC is enough to convict.

  • http://none cindy

    glad I came across this article…. I'm 50 years old and got my FIRST DUI this past Sat. nite… I blew a .09….. OMG… I feel horrible.. I feel depressed, i'm scared, i'm broke (now)…

    I'm divorced and live on my own. My son has moved out…

    My license was taken on the spot for 30 days… I'm bumming rides to and from work. Everyone at work and most friends have been very supportive.. my family, on the other hand, has NO problems judging me… I"ve had a VERY rough year.. My little beloved dog passed away unexpectedly in Jan… My father fell ill in Feb and had heart surgery….. 8 mos. later, he's home but not doing well. Mom is NOT wanting to take care of him… one thing after another.. My son moved out also.. not on good terms….

    so,… now a DUI?…. i was pulled for speeding… had not had a drink in hours.. dammit.. not drunk at all… but he smelled alchohol..

    saw my lawyer.. I have a clean driving record (until this past sat… !).. so i will get the lowest level of punishment.. Level 5…. but that still means i will lose my license for a year.. limited driving priledges… and my insurance will be out the ass….

    God, I don't even ask "what next?" I'm scared to.

    I thought I've been depressed before.?? Nothing compared to this…

  • Peter Walker

    I am responding to your post because I am one of the 40% that is facing a second DUI. I can list the reasons, the hard and difficult life I have had over the past several years, the depression and loneliness, the feeling of being beat down. These are all true and have affected me. I used alcohol to self-medicate and be social, thinking it would make my life more manageable. In the end it didn't do anything but make me feel worse about myself. There are no excuses I have. It is my fault and my responsibility. This is a very dark time in my life and I often contemplate suicide. Those around me try to be supportive but its almost as if the stigma of a DUI is something that society deems appropriate for for you to just kill yourself- relieve the planet of your mistakes.

    • http://hereverycentcounts.com/ Joy

      Peter, I am sorry to hear this happened to you. I hope you can get help from a therapist who will help you deal with your depression which is causing you to make poor decisions. You will get through this time — I know people who have gotten a second DUI and it is not fun at all, but the important thing is that you learn from this and you get yourself the help you need. The programs you are required to go to are not enough. Please do get yourself help so you can be happy again.

  • David

    I've been reading this blog with some interest over the last few months because–like you–I got my first DUI a little while back and was very surprised to get one. Because my case is still pending in the courts, I am reluctant to reveal too many details–I will say only that I was arrested for DUI somewhere in California within the last six months. I'm a heavier drinker than you but typically I don't drive after drinking–an unusual situation (which I fully accept is 100% my responsibility) led to the night of my arrest being an exception. Fortunately I was not involved in an accident–hence no deaths, injuries, or property damage–but was merely pulled over after the police observed me driving erratically.

    Having acknowledged responsibility for my actions, let me also state that from a criminal perspective, one doesn't always know immediately whether one is guilty and one does IMHO have a right to one's day in court to try to prove innocence. If you rob a bank, assault someone, or embezzle funds from your employer, you pretty much know before the police even get involved that you are guilty. But one doesn't always know whether one's BAC is above or below the magical .08 line that makes it a crime. Like you, I knew I'd been drinking but was shocked that my BAC was as high as the police say it is.

    Aspects of the process do seem disturbing to me, though. Although I have not yet had my day in court, and despite the best efforts of my attorney, an administrative (non-criminal) suspension of my driver's license is about to go into effect. The police have not produced the evidence that was requested by my attorney, nor have they appeared at the DMV hearing. Despite the repeated failure of the police to show evidence, the DMV officer cannot wait any longer and will suspend my license. I have no objection to taking full responsibility for my actions once the proper evidence is presented and I am, myself, convinced of my guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. It's more disturbing that action can be taken against me even without proper evidence.

    My attorney has assured me that once the matter moves from the DMV hearings to the criminal courts, the police will be under much more pressure to produce the requested evidence. If that evidence points to my innocence, then he can also have the DMV suspension set aside. In the meantime though I'll be unable to drive or able to drive only with major restrictions.

    That said–it is quite likely that I will eventually be proven guilty, and when we get to that point I'll certainly accept full responsibility for my actions. That will include both working through the various aspects of my punishment and ensuring that I never drink and drive again.

    I'm responsible for my actions but whether I'm CRIMINALLY responsible is, as yet, unproven and I will continue to fight the charge until my attorney advises me that all the evidence is in and it points conclusively to my guilty.

    • http://hereverycentcounts.com/ Joy

      I agree with you that how DUIs are handled goes against our "innocent until proven guilty" ideal that we think is the case for all crimes in America. That said, I've thought about this quite a bit and I know that I should not have gotten behind the wheel after drinking, regardless of my level of intoxication. One drink may be ok but anything more than that means that one should prepare for other arrangements. I just wish I learned this lesson before getting a DUI.

  • http://www.facebook.com/diana.heineck Valkyrie Joos

    Man, you guys need a better understanding of the law and better representation! I was illegally arrested, refused the blood and still have my DL because it was set-aside. I was however, not pulled over. I had pulled over myself. But, I refused the search and got arrested. One of the officers even agreed with me it was not right. But, I also am not going to roll over. There are some many factors, that with o.08 to just plead guilty?
    I have an excellent very reasonable attorney! He CARES and wants to WORK the client case. He ordered films and has gone to all my hearings. I have paid no bail. I have no problem with police, Dad was a mayor or if I am wrong, I can handle a time. But I am right and THANK GOD have an attorney who will fight with me!

  • Subtance users arent criminals

    I am facing a 3rd DWI. I have never hit or hurt The last two were a mile from my house. I can’t get a job. I have a Master’s Degree. I feel suicidal and hate my country for ruining my life. I can’t wait to see the payback. My back is against the wall.

  • One bad choice

    I am 30 years old and I am glad I came across this blog. I typed in “How to rebuild your life after receiving your first DUI” into google search engine.Yes I know this is a full sentence but I needed some guidance. I scrolled down the page and came across this article. I know I messed up and the fall out of my poor decision making has been catastrophic.

    When I received my misdemeanor DUI, I lost my job as a social worker (July 2013). I think this is ironic because if I was a substance abuse counselor, I could have just added this experience to my resume (or not). I have no savings (social work pays peanuts) and I am having a really hard time seeking employment. It is now February of 2014.

    About two months ago someone contacted me from a non profit organization they were hiring for a reentry level Case Manger for felons. Apparently they came across my resume from a job board on the internet. The job is pretty self explanatory my job would be to help felons find jobs and check in on them. I didn’t get the job, but in the back of my mind I was thinking “WTF” if I was a felon I would have a resource that could help me find a job. Not to worry as tempting as it is at this point in my life, I decided committing a felony is a terrible idea.

    I have felt nothing but depression after losing my job apparently being a social worker I have gained no relevant job skills. Getting a BA in social work was a total waste of time and money (thanks to my poor decision). For a profession that is suppose to help people its a total scam. Yeah I understand I messed up its the first time I have been in trouble with the law. Do I really deserve to lose my job? I got my DUI when I was not on the clock it was a Saturday night. I was a top employee, I drink occasionally(few times a month at social gatherings/celebrations), and I am not an alcoholic.

    While attending my mandatory DUI class I met a girl who received a
    felony DUI. Before she received her DUI she was a paralegal. After she
    served time for her DUI she was able to get another job as a paralegal.
    Some jobs are effected by a DUI some are not. It drives me nuts that a
    DUI effects some careers and not others.President Bush JR drove while
    under the influence and hit a person who died.Everyone keeps telling me
    see you can go on to become president. Yeah well his family has money I
    have none and I cant even get a job at Taco Bell.

    I had a few drinks and was catching up with an old friend. Should I have driven home no. I accidentally went into the bus/former fast track lane on a bridge and that is why I was pulled over. One night forever changed my life I cheated myself out of everything I had ever worked for. My life is over. I can’t sleep at night I have applied to any and every job possible with no luck. If It wasn’t for my boyfriend right now I would be homeless. I should have listened to everyone and majored in business then I coud have joined my handful of friends with BA’s in business and DUI’s on their records (they still have their jobs).

    I have no money, I have lost hope, and I still have no idea how to rebuild my life. i cant afford to go to school and because I have a BA I do not qualify for financial aid. I can’t get a lone because I have to claim bankruptcy since I can’t pay my debts. I would never kill myself but if I died naturally or was ironically hit and killed by a dunk driver at less I would no longer be depressed, jobless, or in debt. I would finally be able to rest in peace.